tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26416133.post44835670670474993..comments2023-06-26T06:04:41.569-04:00Comments on 2Slicks Good Times: April asks...what would/do you do?April E. :)http://www.blogger.com/profile/00490734222440466537noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26416133.post-88590862426897901362009-10-27T10:43:17.463-04:002009-10-27T10:43:17.463-04:00I accidentally voted, "no, never". We d...I accidentally voted, "no, never". We do spank from time to time though I don't remember the last time. I can follow up with an email. There is much to say...megsnbigdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05864850209848378105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26416133.post-14472688954530114562009-10-26T14:14:11.852-04:002009-10-26T14:14:11.852-04:00HMMMMMMMMM. That is all I have to say.HMMMMMMMMM. That is all I have to say.Cory E. :)https://www.blogger.com/profile/12186560665488846132noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26416133.post-29531180119335574332009-10-21T14:18:07.649-04:002009-10-21T14:18:07.649-04:00I was a product of spankings.. I got the hand and ...I was a product of spankings.. I got the hand and the belt. I believe in spankings, open hand spankings to the body. Anything to the face or with a closed hand is abuse in my opinion. A spanking sometimes for some situations is the only thing that works. Because open defiance should not be tolerated at 2&3 years old if I can't control it now I won't be able to control it at 13. My new struggle is fighting a spanking won't work. In the words of Bill Engvall " Caitlin don't ( bite, pinch,slap) Josh (then I hit or etc.) "well duh mom here's your sign! You can't fight spanking with spanking. It is up to us as Christian mothers to be discerning of those situations that require spanking, and doing it not out of anger or frustration. It is also up to us to know what works for our children and their particular personality, it is also up to us to be one step ahead of our children. Kids today grow up so much faster than they did at our age so we need to be thinking ahead for what to do when spanking or any other form of discipline won't work anymore.Marie Blackweldernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26416133.post-27018294787576346902009-10-20T16:23:36.397-04:002009-10-20T16:23:36.397-04:00I totally feel the same way as both of the other l...I totally feel the same way as both of the other ladies. I know that for my daughter who is one she does not understand danger or that things can hurt her. So telling her no a million times to not open a drawer full of kitchen utensils just does not cut it. Instead a smack on the hand is really the only way that I know to get her attention. I am sure people will tell me to baby proof our home. But I can't baby proof everything. There are some things that when I tell her no she understands and won't do it again, but sometimes a smack on the hand needs to be given. I don't think she fears me or doesn't love me. I feel like her actions are quite the opposite. And eventually she will reach an age where she is responsible and then we will only spank if it is called for. When a time out or taking something away did not do its job. This is a touchy subject and we all have our own opinions and our own way of dealing with things. But I THINK because I am just starting out in this parenting realm that each child is different and needs to be disciplined in different ways. My parents had to spank and constantly ground my sister. For me reading the 10 commandments was enough. We are all different.Many Titleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06965359521786622620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26416133.post-48720222492335972462009-10-20T15:54:19.534-04:002009-10-20T15:54:19.534-04:00Rebecca and Blogger Mom...thanks so much for shari...Rebecca and Blogger Mom...thanks so much for sharing your opinions!April E. :)https://www.blogger.com/profile/00490734222440466537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26416133.post-75553142226636200832009-10-20T15:50:52.885-04:002009-10-20T15:50:52.885-04:00I was definitely spanked as a child, and boy did I...I was definitely spanked as a child, and boy did I need it. I too believe in spanking, but I believe that a hug and a serious talk should follow so that the child understands you still love them.<br />My son is EXTREMELY stubborn. I do time outs in public because any nut job could call social services on me, however, time outs don't always seem to work. I've tried talking calmly to my son repeatedly when he is doing something wrong, but he just stares at me in open defiance and continues to do whatever it is he is doing. Thus a spanking helps get his attention that mommy means business. You really can't take a toy away from a 2 year old because (at least with mine) he doesn't have any favorites that would affect him. I do believe that once a child is old enough to have that special toy or privilege, then spanking is no longer necessary. I also ALWAYS use my hand. I got the belt on me once or twice, but totally disagree with it because you can't tell just how hard you are hitting as you can with your hand. I don't always spank though. I use time outs and spankings as a pair. I have found, that if you spank too much, then the child becomes used to it and it is no longer effective. Just one last thing, what that woman in your blog said about spanking and it being more your fault than the child's because of your neglect of lunch, nap, etc on time is BULL!!! Yes a child should have a routine, however, you cannot always meet that exact routine because LIFE HAPPENS. I am trying to teach my son (when punishing him during these times) that life does not always go as planned and just because the shopping took a little longer, does not mean that he can start throwing a fit and screaming at me. If I did not instill this in him, he would then expect his meals, naps, playtimes, etc... to be exactly when he wanted them and that everyone should just cater to his every whim. (And just so you know, I'm not talking about when I've had him out for 2 hrs past his nap...I do know that being upset comes naturally with being tired. I am talking about when you are just a half hour behind schedule and the child is totally fussing for not having their own way.) Thanks for reading my comment. Sorry it was so long, but I obviously have a lot to say about this :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14491750702226948157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26416133.post-91456037699113771322009-10-20T15:13:38.863-04:002009-10-20T15:13:38.863-04:00We did use spanking as form of discipline. We rar...We did use spanking as form of discipline. We rarely used our hand. We had a wooden spoon with a frowny face that we called Mr. Not Nice. He was displayed in our kitchen. One swap from Mr. Not Nice meant you had really done something big time wrong. Mr. Not Nice never left a mark and was always followed by a discussion of the circumstance and a big hug and kiss!<br />I was not spanked as a child...I was never disciplined for anything. That is an entirely too long of a story to get into. Aaron was spanked but not so lovingly.<br />We also never used the word "punishment"...I didn't want to "punish" my kids we always used "discipline."<br />I know it is a touchy subject.<br />Blessings,<br />LisaBlogger Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00474316027496068039noreply@blogger.com