Thursday, December 31, 2009
Here is a challenge that Pete Wilson (The Pastor at Cross Pointe in Tennessee) has issued. I am taking the challenge and I hope you guys will to.
I think one of my favorite seasons on Without Wax last year was the 28 day challenge we did leading up to Easter where hundreds of you joined me in reading through the book of Matthew.
With that in mind I want to extend an invitation for you guys to join me for the 31 Day Challenge.
It’s simple. There are 31 days in January and 31 chapters in the book of Proverbs. I want to challenge you to read a chapter a day from Proverbs through the month of January. We’ll start with Proverbs 1 this Friday, January 1.
I’m doing this challenge in conjunction with a new series we’re launching next week at Cross Point entitled Pursuit, The Search for More, where we’re going to go through the book of Proverbs. Whether you’re at Cross Point or not I would love to challenge you to be a part. We’ve even set up a separate blog RIGHT HERE so you can discuss with others what you’re reading. You can also track each others observations by using the twitter hash tag #cp31days.
Do me a favor and leave me a comment if you want to join us. Then RT this post and let’s see how many people we can get to join!
Are you in?
Saturday, December 26, 2009
I hope that you and your family had a wonderful Christmas. Cory and I certainly enjoyed our time with family and friends.
It was our 4th Christmas not giving alot of gifts, and focusing on the true meaning of the season. And it was agreed by Cory and I on our drive home from one of the families houses on Christmas, that we truly missed giving each other gifts on Christmas. I mean, in the past 3 years we have given a few gifts, and this year we got ourselves a laptop...but we miss the excitement of it all. We decided that we can do it next year, without forgetting the real meaning for the season and without going overboard.
Either way, it was a nice holiday. Very low stress and low key. Just like we like it.
Tell me about your holidays...traditions, gifts, memories, etc!
Is anyone still out there?
Tuesday, December 22, 2009
So I am sitting here on the couch watching the boob tube with Husby before he heads off to work. We finished our Christmas shopping this evening. This is the latest we have been to finish in years. Oh well..at least we are done. And we came ever so slightly under budget...always a good thing!
I am ready to celebrate the season with Family and Friends and I am ready to enjoy watching everyone open their gifts...and I am super excited about being off work for 11 days...oh sweet mary...so, ready or not, here we go.
I am trying to get my act together and get myself caught up with the Project 365...I have been taking pictures, but I am so far behind in editing, etc. I also need to prepare our New Year card. Not sure what I am going to do this year...possibly edit another movie to music and burn them to CD for our family and friends. I love doing different things. This was last years...so I am excited to gather all the pictures from this year. Keep your eye out, there is more coming soon, including Remembering 2009!! :)
Wednesday, December 16, 2009
(the following was taken from SimpleMom.net)
Tips for handling extended family stress during the holidays.
1. Your spouse comes first.
The Bible even talks about this one — a child will leave their mother and father and cleave to their spouse. When you get married, it’s time to grow up and leave your parents. This doesn’t mean you emotionally kick them to the curb or cut all ties, but you do need to establish your own family. By putting your spouse first, you are choosing the adult role of being a husband or wife over the role of being a child in your parent’s family.
2. Set boundaries.
There are many things that happen in marriage that are none of your parent’s business. If you run to mom or dad any time you have a fight with your spouse, how are you going to learn to handle life with your spouse on your own? Avoid sharing the household secrets with your parents. Discuss with your spouse what topics and areas of your life are off limits to others.
3. Establish ground rules.
Much like the previous point, setting clear ground rules for handling extended family will improve your marriage:
- When do you and your spouse have exclusive time for each other?
- When do you spend time with your extended family?
- When do you involve your parents/in-laws in decision-making?
- Where should you discuss your marital conflicts: in private or in front of your in-laws?
4. Recognize the culture.
Our culture and upbringing plays a major role in how we do marriage. Recognize the cultural aspects of your spouse’s upbringing. One client I’ve worked with handled it this way: in her upbringing, the women did all the cooking and cleaning up at mealtimes. So when they shared a meal with her parents, he stayed out of the way. However, when her parents weren’t around, he stepped up and helped out or took care of it himself.
5. Don’t criticize your spouse’s relationship with their family or parents.
Nothing can raise a spouse’s defenses faster than criticism. Seek to understand more about their relationship rather than criticize, as that can lead to bitterness and resentment.
6. Be polite.
This doesn’t mean you have to change your personality to please your extended family or in-laws, but respect rules and traditions that are important to the older generation. Being polite and respectful with in-laws will go a long way in improving the relationship — not only with your in-laws, but your spouse as well.
7. Develop code words.
My wife and I have pretty good relationships with each other’s parents and family. Even so, there are still times when they drive us a bit crazy. We’ve developed some code words that we use to lighten the mood between us whenever family is getting too annoying. Have fun with this one, but remember to remain respectful. Derogatory code words will only cause more problems.
8. Spend time with your extended family.
Develop a better relationship with your family members by doing things together. Find out what they enjoy and join them. This could be shopping, playing golf, cards, whatever. You may find you have more in common than you thought.
So what do you think?? Could this help you and your family to get along better during the Holidays?
The sickies. I has them.
and to make matters worse.
I have a cold sore.
(count your blessings I was going to show a picture from google images...but they made my stomach turn...so I declined that notion.)
Plus, mine isn't nearly as bad as the pictures. I'm just being over-dramatic about it all, because the fact that I even get them now ticks me off.
If you know me...then you know that I do NOT share drinks. Not with anyone but my Husby. I do NOT share chapstick. Not with anyone buy my Husby. And the list goes on. I do not share for many reasons; Mom brought me up that way, germs, etc. But one of the main reasons...is I know that these little cold sore buggers lay dormant, and if you catch one, you will have it for the rest of your life.
Well imagine my surprise about two months ago when I woke up with one. Oh I was angry. Lord only knows how I caught it...cause Husby has never had one. And there is a part of me who secretly fears that someone would drink after me or use my chapstick when I am not around just to spite me...Gosh, I know that makes me sound like I am surrounded by evil people. It's not like I really think that happened...at least not on purpose.
...so here I am with the sickies and my second ever cold sore. It sucks. I am handling this one much better than the first one. I have learned that constant application of peppermint oil and Vaseline helps tremendously. So now, even though I have one...it isn't some huge gaping pustule of gross sitting on my lip. (sorry for the visual there.)
Anywho. I'll get over it and hopefully I will get over the sickies soon too. Cause all this coughing is giving me a constant headache, and I am pretty sure my office's clients would love to call and NOT talk to April the "trucker" anymore.
Friday, December 11, 2009
And lately it seems all I've had are excuses. I have no real explanation, other that the typical...busy busy busyness!
The holidays are creeping up on us and even though Cory and I only buy a limited amount of Christmas presents, we have only bought 1 so far!! Yeah, yeah I know...we better get on the ball! And we will. Next week :P
I am eagerly anticipating my 7 days off between Christmas Eve and New Years Day. That's not counting the 4 weekend days surrounding those days. *le sigh* I am super stoked!!
On the bummer side of things, Cory had to go back to midnights...his short stint working a specialized unit is over...now I am back to filling our queen bed all by myself for 6 days a week. I was surprised, it was a pretty noticeable readjustment. I thought I would just fall back into the routine I have had for the past 3+ years. Well I haven't been sleeping well, once I finally DO fall asleep. So I hope that works itself out soon. Cory seems to be adjusting pretty well, falling back into his old routine, so I am happy about that.
He actually took off two nights this weekend so we could enjoy the Holiday parties that we have. In fact, I am attending a Cookie Exchange tonight. Taking these little beauties...and when I say little...I mean little. We were only making half-dozens, but I ended up making a full dozen for each person, cause I couldn't see giving away 6 cookies the size of half-dollars! They are delicious. The melt-in-your-mouth type cookies! I can't wait to see what I come home with!
I dropped by my sister-in-law's house last night to pass off some meatballs for the event and saw her house. It was decorated so beautifully! A far cry from my decor this year...
Oh wait! I do have a wreath on the door and my kissing ball hanging in the entryway to the hallways...those count too! :)
Anywho. After tonight, we have two other Christmas parties. Our VERB Leadership party tomorrow night and then the VERB Christmas Party on Sunday night! Then it's pretty smooth sailing through Christmas.
It is really a great time of year...you just gotta hold on the schedule a bit! :)
Until next time...which may be soon or in another week. I will try and light a fire under my tookus to write more...we shall see how that goes!